Happy December everyone
I love December, the spirit of Christmas is in the air. People are “making the lists and checking ’em twice”. Some people are trying to sum up the year, and some are thinking about the goals for the new year.
But before thinking about the new goals let’s talk about the differences between goals and dreams. Otherwise, you will have dreams and not goals, and dreams stay dreams all the time.
We are all dreamers, people dream a lot. Some people dream about money, another dream about becoming famous, and someone (maybe) dream about playing guitar like Steve Vai. People tend to change their dream time to time, and sometimes even the dreams become true. But let’s be honest, most of the dreams remain dreams for the rest of the life. And the main reason for this is this, dreams don’t have the main attributes which are necessary for achievable goals.
You, probably, heard this saying, “A goal without a plan it’s just a dream”. Using the opposite we can say that a goal is a measurable dream that has a plan for achievement.
“I want to become reach” – is nothing more than a dream, but “I want to have $50,000 in six months” – is a goal. Have you noticed the difference? This goal has a specific value – $50,000 and specific time – six months.
“I want to lose some weight” – nothing more than a wish, a dream. And “I want to gain/lose 10 pounds in 3 months“ is already a goal.
Do you already notice the huge difference between a wish and a goal? But that’s not all, goals have more attributes; goals have to be SMART.
Specific – your goal should be abstract, it should be specific.
Measurable – you should be able to measure your goal, your success or failure. Unless your goal is measurable it’s hard to achieve it. “I want to nice with my friends” – it’s really hard to measure your nicest if it’s even a word.
Attainable – people are not gods (there’s only one God the creator of everything) and have their limitations. One legged person can’t beat Usain Bolt, even he sets a time and even specify how badly he wants to beat Bolt, not gonna happen.
Realistic – your goal should be realistic, no pun intended.
“I want to have million dollars in my retirement account in one year”. – This is a great goal, but there are two problems with it. You have nothing in your retirement account and your salary is $50,000/year. So be realistic, it’s not gonna happen.
Here’s another example, “I want to have one million dollars in my retirement in 15 years.” – here we go, a person has nothing in retirement and has $50,000 salary. But it’s a great goal, it’s specific, it’s measurable, attainable and realistic.
Timely – you have to limit yourself to a time frame. You have to understand that goals can be short-term, medium-term and long-term.
There are 7 areas where I want to improve something, I call it “the wheel of life”. Think about it as a car wheel with 7 independent areas. If even one of the areas goes flat the whole wheel will slow down. In other words, to have your “wheel of life” rolling you need to maintain all the 7 areas of your life.
Spiritual – Living life without God is hard. Let him in into your life, and your life will shine with new colors
Family – Goals for this area is something more than “to spend more time with family”. In our world is not just how much time you spend with your beloved ones, is more about HOW you spend this time. Think about what would you like to improve in your relationships with your spouse, kids, parents and work on it.
Social – Like it or not but we are social creatures, that how God created us. We can not live without other people. Even such introverts as most of the bloggers we need other human beings. We all have friends, don’t forget about them. There’s a Russian proverb “Don’t have $100, have 100 friends instead”
Career – Take courses, read some books. Increase your value and marketability in the area you are in. Think about who do you want to be and what do you want to do in 5-10 years, and create small steps to achieve it.
Physical – It’s better to be young and healthy than old and sick. Duh. There’s nothing we can do about our age, but we definitely can work on our health. Go to GYM regularly, or go to your local park and do some exercise, eat more vegetables, maintain your weight.
Intellectual – “You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” © Charlie “Tremendous” Jones. You will be amazed how much information and inspiration you can get just by reading good non-fiction books.
And last but not least, you have to write down your goals. Not type, not record and anything, you HAVE TO WRITE ‘EM DOWN using a pen and a paper. This list of paper should be near you and should remind you from time to time about your goals.
I hope this post will help you to understand the difference between goals and dreams, and importance of setting and achieving goals.
Have you thought about your goals for 2018 yet?
Later I will share with you my goals for 2018.